How to Forgive and Forget the right way

I realized a couple of years ago that most people still don’t understand what it means to forgive and to forget, and I believe that I really understood what it meant. So stay with me for a moment.

First, let me talk about the “forget” part because that is the subject of the general misconception of this phrase. Some think that the forgetting part mean to literally forget, but let’s think about it… can you actually forget? The answer simply is No! (with a capital letter N).

So what then does it mean to forget?! I’ve come to realize that it means to rid the experience of any negative emotions or feelings. Once the experience or person no longer has anything negative attached to it, this is when you “forget”. When you forget, you can remember the offence and laugh about it or joke about it, like it means nothing, because it literally means nothing. Think with me for a moment; you can count at least ONE experience from your past that once used to cause you hurt every time you remembered it, but when you remember it today, you do with a smile or you just laugh about it. That’s what it means to forget.

Forgive & Forget

Now, forgiveness is easy to understand, yet hard for some. However, after many many discussions with friends about forgiveness, I have come to realize that unforgiveness is really not a matter of can or can’t, it is a matter of willingness. Most people I know will CHOOSE not to forgive, just because. I mean, for some other, they try but find it hard, but most others are just too stubborn and too proud to even consider it.

But thing is that forgiveness, if for YOU and not for the other person. When you forgive someone, it means you no longer hold anything against them for whatever they must have done to offend you. It means you no longer blame them, or hold them accountable or responsible for the office. It means you will no longer “punish” them for their wrong doing.

Putting it all together, to forgive and forget means to no longer hold anything against someone that has offended you and to no longer attache negative emotions to the experience in a way that in the future, you can remember the offence and it will not make you feed bad.

What do you think? Will you forgive, and forget?

2 thoughts on “How to Forgive and Forget the right way

  1. Steve Finnell March 6, 2015 / 22:43


    Contrary to what men believe, only God can forgive the sins that have been committed against Him. Joseph Smith nor Brigham Young can forgive sins. Catholic priests cannot forgive sins. Lutheran ministers cannot forgive sins. There are no men dead or alive who can forgive the sins that men commit against God.


    Isaiah 43:25 “I, even I, am the one who wipes out your transgressions for My own sake, And I will not remember your sins.


    Micah 7:18 Who is a God like You, who pardons iniquity…

    Only God pardons iniquity. Joseph Smith, Brigham Young, Catholic priests, nor Lutheran ministers have the authority to pardon iniquity.

    Daniel 9:98 To the Lord our God belong compassion and forgiveness, for we have rebelled against Him;

    Mankind has rebelled against God and He alone can grant forgiveness.


    Mark 2:6-11..the scribes…7…He is blaspheming; who can forgive sins but God alone? ….10 But so that you may know that the Son of Man has the authority on earth to forgive sins”—He said to the paralytic, 11 “I say to you, get up, pick up your pallet and go home.”

    The problem with scribes was they did not realize that Jesus was God in the flesh. Joesph Smith, Brigham Young, Catholic priests, Lutheran ministers, nor any other men, are or were, God in the flesh.


    Acts 8:18-22 ….20 But Peter said to him….22 Therefore repent of this wickedness of yours, and pray the Lord that, if possible, the intention of your heart may be forgiven you.

    The apostle Peter did not grant forgiveness to Simon, he told Simon to pray to God for forgiveness. Note, Simon was already a Christian.


    John 20:19-23 ….23 If you forgive the sins of any, their sins have been forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they have been retained.”

    Jesus was not giving Peter and the rest of the apostles the power to grant forgiveness of sins to men on an individual bases, Jesus was not ordaining them as priests with that power. Jesus was giving Peter and the apostles the authority to proclaim the terms for forgiveness of sins. Peter and the apostles did just that on the day of Pentecost. (Acts 2:22-41…36 Therefore let the house of Israel know for certain that God has made Him both Lord and Christ—this Jesus whom you crucified. 37…Peter and the rest of the apostles….38 Peter said to them , “Repent, and each of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins; and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.)

    Peter and the apostles did not forgive sins on the Day of Pentecost nor on any subsequent day. They declare God’s terms for pardon.
    FAITH: John 3:16
    REPENTANCE: Acts 2:38
    CONFESSION: Romans 10:9-10
    WATER BAPTISM: Acts 2:38

    Christians are not asked to confess to Joesph Smith, Brigham Young, Catholic priests, Lutheran ministers, nor any other men, in order to have their sins against God forgiven!

    Christians are to confess their sins to God in order to receive forgiveness. (1 John 1:5-9 ….God is light… 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from unrighteousness.)

    1 Timothy 2:5 For there is one God, and one mediator also between men, the man Christ Jesus,

    The only priest standing between men and God is the high priest, Jesus Christ.

    NOTE: Confessing sins and asking God for forgiveness is only available to Christians. Non-Christians must have FAITH, REPENT, CONFESS JESUS AS LORD, BELIEVE IN HIS RESURRECTION AND BE BAPTIZED IN WATER IN ORDER TO THEIR SINS FORGIVEN.


    ( All Scripture quotes from: NEW AMERICAN STANDARD BIBLE)



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